As you know if you read this blog often, I usually get my inspiration for the day’s blog post from social media. Today is no different.
Honestly, I can’t even remember how I happened upon this post, but I was really glad I did.
A general overview of the post is that she used to obsess about being thin, when she stopped, she felt better. (Obviously there’s more to it that JUST that, but if you want the whole 9 yards, check it out for yourself).
At first, I really liked the idea of where I thought the post was going. I’m all for being healthy and loving the skin you’re in. If you love your ribs sticking out, rock em. If you hate your stretch marks, change em. If you love your extra roll, flaunt it! Seriously, I think the world takes so much of our self-confidence away by imposing social “norms” on us. We truly need to love ourselves and our bodies. If you like all you have, GOOD for you! If you dislike some things, you have the power to change them.
That’s where I thought the post was going…
Turns out, it kinda didn’t.
Well, it DID…but her tone through the whole post sort of sat weird with me. I couldn’t put my finger on it until I got near the end of the post. Then my uneasiness with the post was solidified in the comments.
It’s one thing to love your body. It’s one thing to stick it to the media and love your body, small or large. It’s one thing to define your own ways and reasons for being self-confident. But this girl, this girl has some psychological stuff going on I believe. Well, she even said she deals with bipolar disorder.
While I am happy that she feels happy…I felt concern that she went from one EXTREME to the other.
Of COURSE you’re going to be unhappy if you’re thin if you’re killing yourself to be thin.
I feel like she went WAY too far to be thin, and now seems to be overcompensating for it.
Health isn’t starving yourself, working out til you pass out, missing time with loved ones, or losing sleep.
Health also isn’t letting yourself go to prove to the world that you don’t have to do what they say.
If you’ve read any of my stuff, you know I believe the phrase “everything in moderation”. I will never tell anyone to deprive themselves of something they enjoy, but rather to make it a treat. I think pizza, ice cream, and wine are AWESOME! REALLY!
But when they become a crutch to “stick it to society” b/c you “can be fat AND happy”…no, ma’am.
Forget society. Focus on HEALTH, because when you’re HEALTHY, you’re happy.
You’ll be around longer to enjoy family and loved ones.
You can set a good example for your kids.
See, I think where the post went all wrong is making the focus on the weight. It’s not about the weight. It’s about making healthy decisions to help the longevity and vitality of your LIFE whether thin or fat.
I think because she may struggle with back and forth feelings, she thinks it’s either one or the other. It’s not. Bottom line is HEALTH. I hope that when people read the article, that they don’t take too much of what she says to heart. NOT because the media and society don’t need to shove their skinny ideas. But because I don’t think her outlook is a healthy one.
I don’t advocate for skinny or chubby. I advocate for healthy and happy.
What’s your take? Is she on a soapbox? Or is she spot on?